Last week in China and internationally a lot of media have been reporting on the awful story of a little girl, Wang Yue, who was ran over twice, while total of 18 people passed by, but did not extend a hand or call the police, up until the 19th person, came to rescue her. 7 minutes had already passed since she was hit by the first van. She died in hospital. Some report that people ‘didn’t want the repercussions of getting ‘involved’. Media, especially western media talk about the social values of the chinese, and the Chinese, in the quest to ‘get rich quick’ has lots its moral compass, prompting soul-searching. In the Chinese news there are suggestions for legislation of Good Samaritan Laws, which will protect aiding bystanders, and cash awards to ‘promote’ good behaviour. Its perplexing, pretty hard to comprehend – a sort of Self-preservation vs Empathy. It made me think of this recent link that was sent to me last month by Paul Gilbert.
http://www.nytimes.com/2011/09/30/opinion/brooks-the-limits-of-empathy.html?_r=1
In China, it appears the kids are doted upon so lovingly , with the one child policy, you see the one child, trailed by the parents and the two sets of grandparents either side – the children look like little emperors. Pablo also gets a lot of attention, also treated like a little emperor here as well. Although western media reports that money is the new religion and first goal of the chinese, it appear to me that family comes first. Kids seem to be most important thing here. The kids seem to roam freely, safely, and seem to be protected by the other families on the streets – like one big extended family surrounding them. You see lots of kids playing on the street, much like we used to do 30 years ago growing up in Australia before.
However, something else happens on the roads here – Even if the lights say we can walk, and I will be crossing the road with the pram, buses will basically just drive (very fast) straight through the pedestrian crossing, straight at me and the pram, and I have to run to get out of their way. Its absolutely chaotic. I cross the road with one hand out like a stop sign, trying to catch the eyes of the driver so they can see that I want them to stop, or slow down.
Something also shifts in the zones of public transport. As we were leaving the bullet train yesterday, after an easy five hour trip, Pablo starts to walk down the aisle to be near our bag, just as the train was pulling into Shanghai. At the same time everyone got out of the seat to get their bags and leave the train. I started screaming out for Pablo, seeing him getting pushed towards the door of the train as the masses moved out. Interestingly, no one moved, or made much interest in my concern, or made any room for me to get to my son, or allow him to get back to me, or atleast grab him so he would get pushed further away – although it was sort of obvious what was happening. Mother protection instinct shifted into the forefront, I found myself hurdling over the seats in seconds, and pushing everyone out of the way to get to him. It was frightening. Something happens to people on the public transport here – its just fending for yourself. Lots of pushing, shoving and not much caring about the other person.
Its hard to comprehend the harrowing story of the little girl, but there has been a lot of reflection about it in China. I don’t think this is a ‘chinese’ issue, but a global one. People are becoming too scared to help.