Holy Coke
Friday 29th January.
We go up to the University of Cape Town, where two generations of Beinarts have worked or studied, to visit the Kaplan Centre for Jewish studies. The campus is beautiful, up on the side of the mountain with Ivy-clad buildings and a panoramic view of the city and the sea. We are greeted by Milton Shain, a historian who remembers Granddad Ben and our Dad. He is very helpful and takes us down to the library where we look through books and documents relating to Jewish migration into S.A. We read an interview with Ziporah Beinart, who married Koppel Beinart, describing life in Malmesbury in the 1920s. We see extracts from a Yiddish cook-book and another book in Yiddish which contains some pictures of Rakishok (Rokiskis) – the Lithuanian town we believe our ancestors came from.
In the archives, I look at photos of Cape Town docks from the 1890s and 1900s, and try to get an idea of what Woolf, Gittel and their contemporaries might have seen on their first arrival. The librarian working there remembers our aunt Helen, from her student days. It sometimes feels like ‘Beinart’ is a magic word here – it allows us access into the South African Jewish community, and people are very friendly and willing to help.
In the evening, we have been invited for Friday night supper, Shabbat, at the home of another relative. Hilary Joffe is the Granddaughter of Chana Beinart, who was Woolf’s sister. The dinner is at her son, Ivor’s flat. Ivor is a Cantor at the local Shul, and officiates at weddings, funerals and bar mitzvahs. I find myself stumbling over the terminology connected to the Jewish faith – we have been bought up with none of this in our lives, and I feel ignorant about Jewish customs and beliefs. The family are very welcoming. Ivor’s sister Peta is also there, and Hilary’s mother, husband, cousin Cynthia and her husband. There is much talk before supper of who’s related to whom and how, of facial characteristics and pondering over the family tree. Then Grandmother lights the candles and we sit down at the table. I am a little nervous – I’m not sure exactly what will happen and how I should behave. Ivor fills up the silver cup with special kosher wine and says the Kiddush prayer, to which the others occasionally respond. He fills up small cups for each of us with the blessed wine. Then something very strange happens – he pops open a can of Coca-Cola and fills the holy silver cup with that, repeating the prayer to bless the brown fizzy liquid. He gives the holy coke to his grandmother, explaining that she doesn’t drink alcohol. I ask if that’s traditional and they laugh. Next, Hilary’s husband cuts the challah, the plaited bread, and sprinkles it with salt before passing us each a piece. Katy and I are fascinated by this – it seems our bread and salt obsession is still relevant to Jewish culture. After that, we are served a feast of soup, followed by fish and vegetables, and finally cake. Before we leave, this generous family invites us to their other daughter’s wedding. We say we’ll come – perhaps this will be the only Jewish wedding we’re ever invited to.
The following week we have lunch with Gail, another Beinart. Her father was Abe, Woolf’s youngest son, and she tells us the story of how he ran away to join the army when he was seventeen. As soon as the train pulled out of Malmesbury station and his strict father was out of sight, the young man threw his prayer shawl and cap out of the train window. But in the end he married a woman from an orthodox family, so he didn’t reject Jewish customs entirely. I am struck by the way that one generation holds tightly to their traditional culture, whilst their children reject it, and their grandchildren search for it. That seems to be a typical pattern in migratory families. I find myself confused as to whether I am trying to understand Judaism as a culture or a religion, and whether the two can be separated. But at least the centrality of abundant shared meals in our lives has remained.
