Confidence is key isn’t it?
I don’t mean the brash, stride about, showy off sort of confidence, I mean the calm knowledge that you can do something.
I talked about serendipity before. To me, it has come to mean the coming together of the need to do something out of the usual routine, something scary maybe, and the arrival of a big chunk of confidence to help you do it.
I did desperately want to get to the US with my work, to experience maybe just once in my life, that feeling of being a professional artist. Oh I know I do stuff here, but it is never at the exclusion of everything else. There it was. I am a 53 yr old woman who has never been much further than a couple of hundred miles on her own… when I think of that I am shocked. I like to think I am independent and a woman of the world, but actually, no, I am a woman of the Midlands. So going to the US on my own, was so scary… 4000 miles… 3 planes… 4 airports… (mantra: passport ticket money passport ticket money passport…)
I confess I was quaking in my boots. I tried not to think about each stage of the process until I had to.
Because the situation at school had got worse, I decided if I didn’t want it to drag me down completely I needed to do something about it. So I began telling people I was looking for something else.
My amazing husband, once again, was so supportive, taking it all on the chin, while possibly quaking in his boots at the thought of lost income, we discussed it and decided I could do it. I could resign. I had a few bits and pieces that would bring some cash in, so it would be ok. We are not extravagant people (we certainly don’t travel much do we?) It is easy to be a woman of principle once you realise you are not going to be totally destitute. If we had needed the money more desperately I would have had to swallow my principles and count myself lucky to have a job at all.
Having made the decision to leave, I was instantly relieved of the black cloud that had been following me around. I told more people I was looking for new opportunities.
And suddenly there was one… and a really good one too!
It gave me such a boost of confidence, after all the rubbish that had been going on. To know that I was appreciated, thought capable, an asset rather than an expensive liability.
So, then I knew I could do it. I packed my suitcase and off I went into the world on my own, with a red suitcase and a big grin. I strode through airports running over people’s feet with my little wheels, willy nilly!
So now I am a Woman of the World
And a Woman of Principle
A Confident Artist
I feel I could do pretty much anything right now, so ask me quickly before it fades!
Short bit of video just to prove I did it… excuse croaky voice!